Bullying is a serious problem that can affect anyone. Whether you’re a victim at school, online, or in another social environment, you have to find a way to remove yourself from the situation. Here are a few important steps to follow.
It’s important to understand that bullying can take many forms. To deal with it, you first have to recognize it. There are three main types of bullying:
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Direct bullying
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Indirect bullying
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Cyberbullying
While it’s normal—and perfectly valid—for you to feel anger and frustration, it’s vital not to respond to violence with violence, whether physical or verbal. Violence won’t solve the problem, and could even make it worse.
To overcome bullying, you can’t keep it to yourself. Go to a person or resource who can help you as soon as possible, whether it’s the Commission des droits de la personne et des droits de la jeunesse, the police, or your school administration. If you’re being bullied at school, every adult who works at the school is responsible for your safety. You can confide in a family member and/or a professional specifically trained to deal with this type of situation:
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The school psychologist
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A psychoeducator
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A special education technician
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A teacher
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A coach
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Etc.
Bullying doesn’t always stop immediately after it’s reported. Unfortunately, the process can sometimes take a little longer, especially if what you’re experiencing is considered a crime, since the police then have to get involved. If the bullying continues after you’ve reported it, take note of every incident that happens. Include the following details:
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The date
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The time
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The names of the people involved
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The names of any witnesses
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A detailed description of what happened
If you’ve suffered any physical injuries, remember to take pictures. This information could be useful if further measures are taken.
Bullying can be considered a crime if it involves any of the following:
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Threats
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Physical or verbal violence
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Criminal harassment
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Identity theft
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Theft or damage of personal property
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Child pornography
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Incitement of hatred
If you have been the victim of any of these criminal offences, you can report it to local police or the Sûreté du Québec.
Bullying can sometimes make victims feel isolated and alone. It’s important not to close yourself off. Talk to your friends, family, or other people you trust. Their support can make a big difference. Spending time with people who have your back can help boost your self-confidence and reduce stress.
Many schools and organizations offer anti-bullying resources. Look into your school’s policies and support services and make use of them to get help and advice.
Finally, remember that what you’re going through isn’t your fault. Bullying is never the victim’s fault. No one deserves to be bullied. That’s why it’s so important to take steps to protect yourself and put a stop to the abuse. You’re not alone in this struggle, and there are many people you can turn to for help. If you need to, you can always contact Tel-jeunes for more personalized advice.